I need a Sookie
No, NOT Suki. Sookie.
She's Lorelai's best friend on "Gilmore Girls". (I am thoroughly addicted to that show now. Only two more episodes til I'm done with season one. Good thing I already ordered season two.)
So yeah, Sookie's one of those you-can-count-on-her-no-matter-what, she-knows-you-better-than-you-know-yourself kinds of friends. I haven't had that since Carolyn. And before that it was Amy. Amy and I were attached at the hip in high school. Carolyn and I were attached at the hip in college. I still keep in touch with Amy and probably always will, but our friendship is nowhere near what it used to be. And Carolyn. Well, she lives in Ann Arbor, Michigan I think - and no matter how many times I've tried to contact her I have never heard back. I don't think I could've made it through college without that crazy girl. She was the Oscar to my Felix. The Monica to my Rachel. The yoo to my hoo. I thought we'd be bosom buddies for always. Then Jeff Timmer came into her life and she didn't need me anymore.
Anyway....I miss that kind of friend. Not the kind of friend that drops you as soon as Mr. Wonderful comes along. The kind that forces you to jog with her when you're so tired you fall asleep while putting on your Nikes. The kind that loves you when you're laughing and when you're sobbing. The kind that wakes you up at three in the morning to tell you that she just got her first real kiss.
When you're in high school and college, it's easy to have friends like that. It was for me, anyway. You practically live with them. Well, in college, I did live with them. But after college, friendships change. And yes, my husband is my best friend. But he's not a girlfriend. He can't commiserate with me about period cramps and borrow my favorite sweater.
It's ironic, really. Back then, I had amazing friends but I would've given my left arm for a really nice guy. Now I have an amazing guy, and I'd give my left arm for a really nice friend.
She's Lorelai's best friend on "Gilmore Girls". (I am thoroughly addicted to that show now. Only two more episodes til I'm done with season one. Good thing I already ordered season two.)
So yeah, Sookie's one of those you-can-count-on-her-no-matter-what, she-knows-you-better-than-you-know-yourself kinds of friends. I haven't had that since Carolyn. And before that it was Amy. Amy and I were attached at the hip in high school. Carolyn and I were attached at the hip in college. I still keep in touch with Amy and probably always will, but our friendship is nowhere near what it used to be. And Carolyn. Well, she lives in Ann Arbor, Michigan I think - and no matter how many times I've tried to contact her I have never heard back. I don't think I could've made it through college without that crazy girl. She was the Oscar to my Felix. The Monica to my Rachel. The yoo to my hoo. I thought we'd be bosom buddies for always. Then Jeff Timmer came into her life and she didn't need me anymore.
Anyway....I miss that kind of friend. Not the kind of friend that drops you as soon as Mr. Wonderful comes along. The kind that forces you to jog with her when you're so tired you fall asleep while putting on your Nikes. The kind that loves you when you're laughing and when you're sobbing. The kind that wakes you up at three in the morning to tell you that she just got her first real kiss.
When you're in high school and college, it's easy to have friends like that. It was for me, anyway. You practically live with them. Well, in college, I did live with them. But after college, friendships change. And yes, my husband is my best friend. But he's not a girlfriend. He can't commiserate with me about period cramps and borrow my favorite sweater.
It's ironic, really. Back then, I had amazing friends but I would've given my left arm for a really nice guy. Now I have an amazing guy, and I'd give my left arm for a really nice friend.
posted by Wendy at 10:40 PM
3 Comments:
I wonder if that's not just a sign of growing up, Wendy. I mean, I too had bestEST friends growing up (in high school, it was Marie & Vivian; during my roarin' twenties, it was Melissa, Rita and Sammy - the fab four!!) We did EVERYTHING together; accepted each others faults, and loved one another despite them! But, as I get older I find true female friendships to be less intense; more difficult to construct. Its a shame too, because I think we (women) all miss that commeraderie we had in our early years. At least, I find that to be true amongst the older women I talk to....
Maybe someone else will tell you I'm wrong - that those female/female relationships can still be had; that they're just as binding as they were when we were younger - but, personally, I've stopped 'aching' for one, as I just don't think it's possible (once we establish a "real" male/female relationship, that intense bonding just doesn't happen anymore)
But, I still luv ya, girl!! ;)
If we lived closer, I'd make you walk!!
Wendy I agree with Mo. I only have one very close female friend Kris. My other female friends, I have had for a long time but, I am closest with Kris. I also have good male friends that are like brothers to me.My best male friend, is like my best female friend I can confide anything to him. He is like a girl (no he is NOT gay).
Most of my friends I have had for a long long time 20+ years.
:0) ~ Renae ~:0)
Wendy,
Sometimes I wonder if it is because of all the emphasis we as women put into our marriages, our homes, children(not yet, I know) jobs..that maybe there just isn't anything left.I seriously wonder at the end of the day....how could I give anymore, I'm exhausted! Maybe I haven't put enough effort into being a friend. I know what you mean, I would to have someone to hang out w/for coffee or call just to blab,Hit a few yard sales with...it was so much easier when you look back wasn't it?!
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